1. On priorities (): 21:33
Harvey Chua <firstname.lastname@example.org> writes:
You will have plenty of time for a love life later on. For now,
concentrate on your studies. But then, it's your choice. I can't be
watching you all the time, so you would have to watch yourself and
decide which or who(m) are your priorities. Just remember that there
are rewards, repercussions or complications - depending on what
actions or decisions you make. Judge well what is good for you.
Love you always,
P.S. See, you do have a love life. We all love you. I more than and
ahead of anybody and everybody else.
- Get a PhD. The training will help me do research, and I'll be able
to pick up useful teaching techniques along the way.
- Teach computer science. I really, really like computer science, and
I want to help other people realize how fun and helpful it is.
- Help people grow and reach their potential. (That includes helping
myself grow. =) ) Still have to figure out how to help people do that.
I'm not completely devoted to this plan, and by that I mean that I understand that I am not absolutely essential to the progress and development of computer science. Still, I really like the field, and as one of those rare girls who actually enjoy computer science, I feel I have an opportunity to make a big difference. =)
I don't think I want to have to deal with the possible complications
of "being in luuuuuurv" until I've earned my PhD and have established
a name for myself. So that pretty much rules out formal, long-term,
conventional romantic relationships (eeeeew!
Plus just in case Richard Stallman decides to go after me.. Ahem. ;)
This does not, however, prevent me from appreciating the friends I have. I know that really good friendships help me grow as a person and achieve my dreams, and indeed the warmth and support I receive from my family and friends is something I treasure.
And it really is rather nice to interact with people.
There is something to be said about love and growth, if my Philosophy
and Theology classes have any truth to them. I also have to watch out
- might become _too_ rational or need too much control over my
life. ;) Like for example, I have a bit of a hang-up regarding the
word "love", since it can mean quite different things to people, and
I'm a little afraid of becoming incontinent as defined by
Aristotle. (See? I get to use Philo after all.) Distraction is
doubleplus ungood, but so is neurosis.
I love computer science not just because of the abstract algorithms and programs, but more because of the people I get to meet and help and learn from. So I'm into this whole social thing, but I'm just taking things a little at a time. Kinda like the spiral model of software development. ;)
I'm sure we'll all manage to figure something out. =) So basically, people know my plans. If you think that you can help me become a better person and that I can help you become a better person, then we'll see how things work out.
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